Manishi’s blog

When people stopped me, I leaned courage.

When people encouraged me, I learned to love.

When people pulled me, I learned to resist.

When people appreciated me, I learned thankfulness.

 

 

When people criticized me, I learned success.

When people praised me, I learned humbleness.

When people tried to overpower me, I learned determination.

When people helped me, I learned friendship.

 

 

When people argued me, I learned silence.

When people discussed with me, I learned sense.

When people misbehaved with me, I learned patience.

When people observed me, I learned updating.

 

 

When people doubted me, I learned faith.

When people believed me, I learned responsibility.

When people left me, I learned walking alone.

When people followed me, I learned leadership.

 

 

When people pretended with me, I learned observance.

When people loved me, I learned friendship.

When people back-steeped at me, I learned competition.

When people supported me, I learned co-operation.

 

 

When people laughed at me, I learned ignorance.

When people recognized me, I learned balance.

When people went against me, I learned never dieing attitude.

When people favored me, I learned obligedness.

Remember how excited you were while discussing the execution plans of your new venture with your friend. Everything was crystal clear in your mind. What will be the plan, how you are going to manage with other things. How you will schedule your time for different slots and etc etc etc.

 

But what happened now? Where is that level of excitement? What about those planning? It seems as if all your plans have become just a matter of paper work. Everything has been cooled down.

 

DO NOT WORRY; THIS IS NATURAL AND PERFECTLY NORMAL.

 

This happens with all of us. After reading the motivational books, articles and after attending similar seminars we start dreaming big. But have you ever noticed that even after dreaming big and thinking positive why most of us could not match up with the success phase. Because the rhythm of our footsteps while walking on the path of success gets interrupted and becomes slow. As the time passes we get more and more engaged with our day to day schedules and in order to cope up with it, somewhere we loose the track.

 

Actually all these things are quite normal and obvious. I will tell you why.

We are the people whose thinking pattern is different from those who live to meet up the expectations of their scheduled life. Instead we expect a lot more from life. It’s not just a matter of making money but something extraordinary which can bring revolutions. And those who are still reading this belong to this community. Now when we have that extraordinary skills in us and start applying them then our scheduled things starts digging holes for us so that after falling in them our talents get absorbed in the same rat race.

 

But my dear friends do not let this happen with you. You are the blessed one, with special quality of thinking beyond the boundaries. We together have to train your mind to maintain the never dieing attitude. We have to maintain that excitement so that our dreams can taste the reality.

 

Now comes the practical part of the story. I know you must be thinking “Oh! The same old story”.

 

WAIT AS THERE IS SOMETHING MORE INTERESTING WAITING FOR YOU.

 

Let me compose this with my own example.

 

Today in the morning I suddenly got jolted with the thought of how its been since I wrote something creative which can really help my readers in making their life better. You know the responsibility gets doubled when you are a public writer and writes for the society you live in. At the very moment with my best friends (my notebook and a pen) I sat at the working corner of my house so that I can concentrate to write an article. But to my surprise I was not able to find anything interesting. You know what happened I actually went out of the track and now my mind was not responding as it used to do earlier. The excitement was missing for so many days. While starring at the blank page I thought how to charge up myself and suddenly I looked saw my nails. Immediately I delayed everything for few minutes. I cleaned up my hands, filed my nails and applied a nail paint that I brought last week.

 

My beautiful hands inspired me to write something very beautiful and the thoughts once again started rolling in my mind just waiting to be written down. So here I am with my new blog.

 

This is how I energized myself. There are lot more ways which can prove to be helpful to you. Next time you feel out of the track, give them a try as they really works for you.

 

CAN YOU TELL ME HOW YOU KEEP THE FIRE BURNING IN YOU.

 

WAITING FOR YOUR RESPONSE…………..................KEEP EXPLORING AND TAKE A VERY GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF.

 

ENJOY…………

A group of 4 to 8 year-old Children were asked, "What does love mean?" The
answers they gave were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined.

--"Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it
                     everyday" (Tina - age 7)

 --"My mommy loves me more than anybody. You don't see anyone else
          kissing me to sleep at night." (Clare - Age 5)

--"When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You
   know that your name is safe in their mouth." (Billy - age 4)

--"When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint
her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time,
even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love." (Rebecca - age 8 )

--"Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French
fries without making them give you any of theirs." (Chrissy - age 6 )

--"Love is what makes you smile when you're tired." (Terri - age 4 )

--"Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip
before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK." (Danny - age 7)

--"Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still
friends even after they know each other so well." (Tommy - age 6 )

--"During my piano recital, I was on a stage and scared. I looked at all
the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the
only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore. That's love" (Cindy -age 8)

--"Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone
                   all day." (Mary Ann - age 4 )

Above is the Mail I received regarding the meaning of LOVE

In my words the best example of Love is FAMILY AND ITS BONDING as it includes sacrifice, care, mutual understanding, devotion which are the different forms of love.

 

 

 

 

 

There was the time when to get settled in life meant to become an engineer , doctor and then get married to a decent girl and live happily ever after. But now the definition has changed completely and totally the new scenario has popped up with the alternate carrier options and life style to be chosen. The thinking pattern has been changed. We no more believe on the words of our elders and have got our own decisions to be placed ahead each time. With so much evolution going on every where, the things which were tabooed earlier for the teenagers have become obvious to be known. Now instead of thinking on the same line youngsters has discovered new ways. As we know the change is for good but can we apply the same line for every change. As the bad also comes with every good so here also it is in the line.

 

Yesterday I was watching the survey in which 70% of the youngsters nowadays do not want to get married, and even if they do want, then in the latter half of life.

I tried to get the reasons for that and continued my search. Here I could gather some points, tell me what you think about them.

 

1)      More Live-in-relationships coming into existence.

 

With every thing getting advanced and easily accessible, all the good phases of married life are also in the list. This has been made possible with the upcoming of live-in-relationships. I think all the young people who are into the relationship will agree with me, when I say that marriage with it brings more responsibilities, whereas the responsibilities get divided equally in Live-in-relationships. Also there is liberty which is so called freedom in such relationship. You have not got to explain the reasons of coming late, or let it be anything. More over both partners are free to end the relationship when they find it incompatible to be with each others whereas marriage doesn’t come with so much offers.

 

 

2)      Carrier Consciousness has been increased

 

“Slow and steady wins the race”. The proverb has become totally obsolete for now the present generation does not believe in being slow and steady. There is no time to look back and decision has got to be taken as soon as the options are served. Everybody wants to be at top which is good but at the same time we cannot deny that there is only one man’s place there at the top. So with this comes the competition, which brings aggression among the people and the frustration which gets assembled and cannot be poured in the working areas. Thus it finds its way back at home upon partners. Aggression is one thing that marriage doesn’t want at all. We have to be patient and calm there also as the other partner no matter male or female is also working and is filled with the same furious aggression. But we lack to be patient and calm so youngsters do not want to be overburdened with it and just wants to concentrate upon their carrier.

 

3)      Increasing Number of Betrayals

 

I know a girl who was seriously in love with a person and both of them wanted to get married. Finally every thing was going fine and even the girl got her parents agreed with the decision. But at this point of time the boy started misbehaving and because of the continuous ignoring attitude the relationship got over before marriage. After few months the girl’s parents got her engaged with the boy of their choice who was comparatively better looking and with a promising carrier. When every thing was almost finalized I got to know that she has got her ex boyfriend back into her life as he apologized her for the behavior and now instead of talking to her fiancé she is busy in planning the things to get settled down with her ex boyfriend. I felt terribly sorry for the guy as he didn’t have the slightest idea of what happening.

 

Now see the other face of the things. Few days back that friend of mine got to know that her fiancé is also going around with a divorce and discussed the things with him with the final decision of not carrying on anymore. She discussed the things with her boy friend and got firm with the decision of her to get married with him. To her surprise one day her boyfriend came to her saying that he cannot marry her as his parents has got his marriage fixed somewhere else. Now the girl is in depression and has lost her faith in marriage.

 

I do not know whose fault it was exactly as in this case I found everybody ditching each other. See in your locality, I am sure there will lots of cases where because of this reason bachelors and spinsters have lost their faith in marriages.

 

4)      Increasing Expectations

Marriage is another name of Love. According to me the highest state of love is marriage. We choose one person from all others with whom our whole life gets attached, so it is natural that the expectations will also rise. But never forget that the other person is also human and there are limitations attached to him. Moreover humans are not perfect.

 

Before marriage the things remains very rosy and different. We get pampered from fiancé and when a married life starts then we expect to get the treatment of the price and princess. But then it’s not possible each time and we have to accept the things as they come our way. This is the best way of being happy. If we keep on complaining on the silliest things then the list will never end up but the relation will definitely. We have to ignore our partner’s mistakes sometimes. If one partner can fit him in that frame then this love will make the other one also to be more understanding and patient.

 

 

My dear friends I am also a girl of this generation and have got married nearly five and a half months back. Believe me getting married is the best decision that both of us took in our life. Marriage is really a very beautiful bonding between two people. It makes life more worthwhile and gives a purpose to it. As far as the adjustments are concerned then they exist in every relationship. So please before coming to a decision give a thought that what impact its going to have in the latter stages of your life.

It’s very easy to make people agreed to your points but the real challenge comes when you have to maintain their poll in your favor each time.

Lets try to unfold a secret of how anybody makes the success come to his way by making others working for him with the same vision. I know a person who when started a company had nothing to offer to his employees but just the hopes for the better future. There were no big dreams, no lucrative salary, no incentives, no yearly bonus, no tours, no perks to be offered but a dream of becoming big, known and established.

 

No this article is not about the success story of the person, may be I would like to narrate it after few years. But right now my concern is more about how he got others dance on his tune. Below are some Guiding Tips that I observed in him.

1) Be happy for the growth of your employees and subordinates equally as for your own.

 This is the first tag line which is very much necessary in order to be successful. Never ever think that the person who is working under you is the one who has got to be there always. Be a part of his success story as well. And genuinely participate in his efforts. Guide him with whatever knowledge you have. Bring life to their dreams as well while doing that for yours.

And never be afraid that he may overpower you. Even if he does that one day, always be the one who admire him for that even. This may not double up your turnovers but if you can genuinely cultivate the thought then you will prove to be a winner already and there is no competition between him and you. You will be a winner in the struggle of being a better person and there by contributing something spiritual to your growth. This spiritual growth is most important one among all as this is the only one which goes with us after death.

2) Let the employees be the boss of himself.

Let yourself be nowhere in the scene of making the rules of do's and don’ts. Just make a format for the employees and let them make the rest of the frame of the picture. Its not that they will get punctual for every work schedule or never come late to the office, but then you never need to ask them the reason for that. The members will themselves update you with the things and also they will make sure to avoid such excuses next time. This is going to save lot of your energy and time which can be put in increasing the productivity.

 3)   Be their friend instead of their Boss.

 

The above point which is heard very often but is practiced the least is one of the most important one. 

Let me give you an example. My immediate senior in my last company was a very high headed man. Very arrogant and always maintained a distance between him and his team members. He kept an eye on us even in the canteen. He called up the meetings every week just to scold us for our performances. Slowly we started hating him and besides the terror that he tried to create in us we went totally out of the track. We deliberately started hampering the work which hampered our growth also, but who cares. We were happy that at least we are doing some harm to the company which we wrongly assumes as a harm to our manager.

Then one day without a prior notice The CEO of the company came to the floor. I was suffering terribly with cold and was coughing like anything. Suddenly I realized a hand on my head and a voice could be heard "are you alright Manishi? Better take a leave." To my surprise he was the CEO of the company and I was shocked that he called me with my name when there are at least 1000 of employees in the company. That day I realized that by not working properly I am not harming my manager but my CEO who is one of the friendliest people in the company.

 

4)    Have Faith in your employee.

 

Remember a person alone can never become successful. It’s the whole team that puts their sweat to make the success shine for him. Once you put a seed of friendship in the organization then nurture the plant with faith. Trust on the decision of your employees as now your company is not yours alone. It belongs equally to your employees who as desperately want to make the company as successful as you want.

 

5) You and the Company are two different entities.

 

CEO's comes and goes, what remains is the company. So do not pride for your endeavor as when seen as a whole then you added the efforts for 25-30 years only. Do not get emotionally too attached to the company or any of the possessions of yours as like others you will also have to leave all this forever.

 

In last I would like to say that do not wrap the success mantra superficially in order to be successful but make them a part of you. As the pretendence will be gone with the time and you will end all your energy in make ups.

Rather than being happy on our achievement we are unhappy on others achievement.

In a second we rid ourself from the pleasure of being happy wondering why the other person is so happy.

 

I want to ask why our happiness is so cheap that it can be easily thrown away so easily on others negative remarks? Why is a matter of luck instead of being the matter of choice? Because our happiness is not totally ours, it is dependent on others.

 

A poor man is unhappy because the rich man has lots of things to eat; where as the rich man finds the poor one to be much fortunate as he can at least eat anything that he wants. But the rich cannot touch anything because of diabetes. Poor person has no bread to eat but a rich one can not eat anything except bread.

 

So my dear friend be a master of your own happiness. You alone decide whether to be happy or sad in life. Your happiness can not be so small and trifle that it becomes a matter of others mercy. Be happy for yourself, for your efforts and potentials. Do not let yourself down and leave the efforts on the slightest of the criticism of others. Maintain a positive vibe in you and regularly try to improve your skills. No matter how long will take but every time you will reach a step near to perfection.

 

Have you ever found people getting entertained in listening the miseries of others? No, nobody wants to waste a time over listening your misfortunes but instead if you have something inspirational to teach them they will welcome you. A happy man is always a source of inspiration for others.

 

But also check out your definition of being happy. If you find it to be constructive then you are heading on the right path but if you feel happy on the cost of others happiness then at the end you are going to be the most unhappy person. So check it out. Even after reading this article, you do not find anything worthwhile to be happy in your life then practice the below.

 

Every morning after getting up and every night before going to sleep say firmly to yourself "I am happy no matter what comes in my way” and believe me that in a very short span of time miracles will happen with you. You will find new ways opening at your path and each of them will lead to the doors of happiness.

 

But make sure not to have double thoughts or any kind of doubts while you make your mind believe that. So my dear friends try it out and share the experiences. Even if you get the slightest smile on your face because of this then I will be the happiest person for you.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Rather than being happy on our achievement we are unhappy on others achievement.

It takes just a second to forget all the efforts that we undergone through to achieve our goals and losses all our enthusiasm on finding that the other person is also happy has also achieved something else.

 

I want to ask why our happiness is so cheap that it can be easily thrown away so easily on others negative remarks? Why is a matter of luck instead of being the matter of choice? Because our happiness is not totally ours, it is dependent on others.

 

A poor man is unhappy because the rich man has lots of things to eat; where as the rich man finds the poor one to be much fortunate as he cannot touch anything because of diabetes and other life taking diseases. Poor person has no bread to eat but a rich one can not eat anything except bread to eat. Rich person thinks that “Oh! Here I am in the five star hotel. Why to eat bread.”

 

 

Similarly a man with simple education and just one degree thinks that “I do mot have much knowledge and so can’t stand with an intellectual people”. Whereas a scholar with many degrees thinks that, “How fortunate I am because I am full of doubts.”

 

So my dear friend be a master of your own happiness. You alone decide whether to be happy or sad in life. Your happiness can not be so small and trifle that it becomes a matter of others mercy. Be happy for yourself, for your efforts and potentials. Do not let yourself down and leave the efforts on the slightest of the criticism of others. Maintain a positive vibe in you and regularly try to improve your skills. No matter how long will take but every time you will reach a step near to perfection.

 

Have you ever found people getting entertained in listening the miseries of others? No, nobody wants to waste a time over listening your misfortunes but instead if you have something inspirational to teach them they will welcome you. A happy man is always a source of inspiration for others.

 

But also check out your definition of being happy. If you find it to be constructive then you are heading on the right path but if you feel happy on the cost of others happiness then at the end you are going to be the most unhappy person. So check it out. Even after reading this article, you do not find anything worthwhile to be happy in your life then practice the below.

 

Every morning after getting up and every night before going to sleep say firmly to yourself”” I am happy no matter what comes in my way” and believe me that in a very short span of time miracles will happen with you. You will find new ways opening at your path and each of them will lead to the doors of happiness.

 

But make sure not to have double thoughts or any kind of doubts while you make your mind believe that. So my dear friends try it out and share the experiences. Even if you get the slightest smile on your face because of this then I will be the happiest person for you.

Once there was a 7 year old child waiting at the doorsteps, for his father to return home from office. Father came very late and was exhausted. He saw his son and asked him “Why are you still awake?”  Child said “Daddy, How much do you earn per day?”

 

 “So this is why the child is awake so late in the night and what on the earth he has got to do with my one day salary.” Thought the father scolded the child for asking the question. Later in the night after having the dinner father kept on thinking the reason his child asked the question. He went to the boy’s room and saw him still awake. He calmly went to him and asked what is bothering him?

 

The child very politely asked the same question again “Daddy can I know how much do you earn a day?” The question irritated the father but this time he said in a rude tone “$10, Why.” Child immediately got up from his bed and took out his piggy bank from the wardrobe. He counted $10 and gave to his father saying “Can I have your one day please”. This brought tears in father’s eyes and while embracing his son he said “Yes my baby you owe it.”

 

Life has become too fast and in order to keep the pace we have to run with the same speed. We are living under continuous pressure of timely deliveries, schedule completions, better performance etc. All is exceptable as the competition has raised so much…..but the rules need to be changed sometimes for our loved ones.

 

This post is for all those late night working people…be them daddies, mommies, husbands, wives, sons and daughters. Just answer this “FOR WHOM ARE YOU WORKING SO HARD IN THE LATE NIGHTS” I am sure everybody has got the same answer for you and your family. But my dear what’s the use when you are too busy to enjoy that earning of yours and every time your family is craving for your little more time.

 

So dear all please take time for your loved ones as for you it can be few moments but for them it can mean a world.

 

  

 

 

You make dislike your neighbors, relatives, colleagues because they show off her health, show excessive pride or are too arrogant. Well, we all have our own reasons for disliking people. 

In this fast moving world nobody has got time to understand each other and patiently give time to let yourself be understood by others. Even I was the same until an incident changed my attitude towards others and magically changed my understanding for life.

There was one colleague of mine who was working in the same team in which I was. Because of the same projects we were suppose to be the active members of our team and have be in continuous contact with each other in order to take decisions and assign them to rest of the team. But slowly we discovered that our views do not match at all and there were clashes in our thinking. Slowly we developed disliking for each other as we never agreed on the same things and almost quarreled in the meetings. This dislike developed into the hatred for each other and eventually we started ignoring and avoiding each other.

On the project completion our manager planned an official trip for the whole team. Well the defined day approached and we all loaded with our bags took our seats in our minibus to start up the journey. Now while everybody was enjoying the voyage by singing songs, dancing, cracking jokes both of us made sure to choose the farthest seats from each other so that we do not turn up spoiling our mood.

The weather was lovely and everything was perfect until a sudden mishappening approached us. There was a heavily loaded truck behind us whose speed was beyond the control limit and it was trying to overtake us from the wrong side. That was the last time I saw the truck as after that all I could here was a big bang and the picture became too hazy for me. But before any of us could realize that the truck has actually hit us it disappeared from our site. Although I was still shivering with the shock but did not get even a hair hurt. My immediate concern was for my team. I gave a quick glance to everyone. We all were shocked on the collision and also lost our equilibrium for few minutes. By God grace everybody was all right and did not had any thing severe besides few scratches except the one I disliked.

This hit proved to be so fatal for him that he bleed-ed to the limit of getting fainted. The first thought which came to my mind was "Oh God! Please save him, why for so long I have been carrying so much hatred for him, whether I would get another chance to say sorry for all the misbehavior and to tell that you are good". With these thoughts I rushed towards him and all of us together took him immediately took him to the nearest hospital and did our best to save him as he was badly hurt.

After a brief checkup and medication he was hospitalized for 15 days and also got himself shifted to the city hospital. After that we all returned to our work while he rested in the hospital. Either before going to my office or after leaving from it I made it sure to visit my colleague in the hospital with a bunch of fresh white lilies and fruits to wish him quick recovery. I spend time there talking him and his family. I continued my visits for 7 days after which he got discharged from the hospital and was advised to take rest for few more days at home. But because of the increased pressure on the starting of new project I could not continue my visit to him in his house and had just a few conversations about his health over phone.

One fine morning when I reached my office and sat on my desk with different stat details going in my mind regarding the new project suddenly I noticed a bunch of fresh white Lilies in the corner pf my working table with a note of "Thank You". Immediately I went to the desk of my hospitalized colleague and saw him smiling and gleaming with the new enthusiasm to be back to the office.

From that day onwards we turned out to be the best friends. Its not so that all of the sudden we started agreeing n the same views and decisions but there was no more fights in the meeting room. Probably we have understood the definition of being polite and patient with the things. And together we made our team reach new heights by achieving the least expected targets.

Now although I have left my job and both of us have got busy in our lives and priorities, still the friendship has turned out to be the golden one The one which can never give any misconception to take place even after being two completely different individuals who totally differs from each other in their life pattern and thinking pattern.

That incident made me realize that Life is too short and we meet each other for a very short span of time so lets swallow our ego and give our selfless love to others, thereby making  WORLD A BETTER PLACE.

 

My brother told me that "95% people are good but just because of the 5% bad peple we develop a misconceptionfor all"

The most current example of this is that, yesterday a technician came to my house to install Aquaguard a water purifier. In order to have a wall model he told me that the stand would be costing me 250 bugs which was 200% more than what I was been told by sales person. So I got annoyed and called up the sales manager to confirm the things. But I found that the price has been raised because the company has stopped supplying the stands and they are getting them manufactured from outside.

There were some paintings and a Fengshui Fan which I bought quite long back but since there was no drilling machine so they were lying packed in my cupboard. When I saw technician drilling through the tiles of my kitchen, thought of  borrowing the machine for 10 min to make hole for paintings. But then as I talked him rudely due to the misconception so was feeling awakward to ask him for the it.

 

The technician who was very dedicated person, patiently completed his work and just when he was about to pack his things asked me "Madam do want me to drill somewhere else also for puting wallhangings...........". I was surprised at his generousity. I asked him to make five holes and after drilling them to my surprise he gave me the screws and holds without my even a least expression of any favour of money for the extra service. When I asked him whether he would like to have tea or something else he said in a very staright tone "No thankyou mam I have to go to other places to fix the water purifier."Suddenly my brother's proverb echoed my mind and I felt very embarassing on my early behaviour.

 

Well now the paintings and hanging are now the part of my living room.........

We have got to develop more friendly and trustful attitude towards others as our outlook only decides whether we make more, friends or enemies and thereby make life go easy or worst for us.